Natural Law - May 2021

We are all self-governing.

Let us call upon our ancestors, Elders and teachers - past and present,

to guide us in the way of the Heart.

You are all my relations. All is One.


The Spirit in me, sees the Spirit in you.

“Empathy without boundaries is self-destruction” (Silvy Khoucasian).

This quote could not be more relevant, as humanity stands on the precipice of paradigmatic change.

This quote also challenges the theoretical practice that many with caring personalities, and those in the caring professions, have been guided by for eons. This quote challenges our ‘helping’ and ‘caring’ culture.

This culture shift must be looked at in our personal relationships and at executive levels of organisations, to truly create cultures of wellbeing. The theory is there, yet the embodiment of it, is lagging.

Boundaries are something many of us have had to learn on our own, and the hard way, often through burnout caused by cumulative stress. It’s about maintaining our own health, whilst we open to the Stories and needs of others, and that looks different for everyone.

Burnout is a tell-tale sign of imbalance. Also, when we become closed to the perspectives of others; find it difficult to join our family and friends; and when we can’t separate from our caring role, to enjoy other areas of life…

Dr Usui, the original Grandmaster of Reiki says “there has to be a rise in consciousness, in order for true healing to occur”. This means that we must allow a person to be in charge of their healing process. We must wait for them to identify what is a problem for them, and then, how they would like to manage that. We can make suggestions, and even provide resources, but ultimately, we must allow a person, to take responsibility (or not), for their own healing journey.

That can be a tough journey in itself, it is difficult to witness people suffering (and the suffering that causes for those around them)…yet true healing is a self-directed process.

Therefore, whilst walking alongside, or simply loving someone in pain, it is crucial that we identify our own needs for balance and health. What is it that keeps us safe and strong, and following through with that.

In addition, you may need to put boundaries in place, when a person’s stress behaviours are now causing you stress and anxiety.

One of the ways ‘helping’ turns destructive is when we become a ‘crutch’ for someone, which essentially creates an emotional diffusion between you and that person - which is another way of describing co-dependence. This has the opposite effect of supporting someone to heal - what it does, is enable.

Everyone will have a different threshold, and reasoning around their style of ‘caring’, but I feel it’s important we consider these points, to ensure that constructive ‘caring’ is actually what we are doing.

Because - Balance is inherent in wellbeing and imbalance is inherent in illness.

This month, practice articulating and then doing what you need for restoration.

You are all my relations. All is One.

Blessings of Love & Light,